And in this, Others have a Voice. Others were Empowered. Others were Validated
This was not something Dr Ford set out to do, to change the world, to become a historic figure in the Me-Too Movement. This was not a career move. You do not have to be the biggest, loudest most impressive to make epic change. There is a PROFOUND MAGIC that can occur when an individual has their voice heard, their needs met, their personal experience validated. Giving someone that safe space to feel accepted and witnessed is incredibly powerful. You do not need to be a cardio thoracic god, a powerful lawyer or an environmental engineer to make a difference. You just need to
Be the person you needed when you were younger.” ― Ayesha Siddiqi
response, minimizing stress hormones and encourage the nervous system to relax and release healing hormones (oxytocin, dopamine and endorphins.) We can literally dissolve feelings of disconnection.
Creating connection can and does change the trajectory of lives.
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As human beings we are hardwired to connect. We communicate all day everyday. Through our words and our actions. We are continually providing a feedback response, to any and all events and occurrences that we are faced and surrounded by. The feedback we give, whether consciously or unconsciously, will provide a positive or negative influence. This week within our Be Strong team we have been talking about our own communication style and the hows, whats and whys of communication.
How can we better ourselves at communicating?
How can we encourage communication?
What are we trying to communicate?
Why are we trying to communicate in this why?
Our Answer : Affective Statements
A personal expression of feeling in response to others' positive or negative behaviors" - Laura Mirsky
Everything around them is exciting, new, an opportunity to know "why?" The world is their oyster and they are starving for the pearl; they are voracious in their appetites to "know".
Kids are so curious; they want to know how everything works, why does it work that way and how did it get that way. They love to be in the know, especially if they are the "first" to know. And then they cannot wait to share what they know with everyone they come in contact with. And this new knowledge never gets old! But it does get bigger because kids always want to know more about this new thing they have learned. Some will ask for books about the subject of their curiosity, they will ask to Google it and they will ask anyone who they meet who may look like they might have some knowledge on the subject: "What do you know about...?" When you tell them what you know, they listen. They really listen and you can see them thinking about every word you are saying and dissecting it and examining it. And then it happens; they ask "Why?"
"Why" then brings out the Philosophers inside them. The suppositions and imaginings of a five year old are nothing short of genius. They are creative in their thinking and can create scenarios that are so far "outside the box" of any adult that if you allowed yourself to jump on their train of thought, you would actually see that this kid is AMAZING! The WORLD is amazing! Every thing that happens in our daily lives that we take for granted or do without even thinking about anymore is absolutely fascinating to a five year old. Like, why does a balloon "get squishy" (or, shrink) when it is taken outside in to the cold and then gets "fat" again when you bring it inside? The question is formed from accurate and astute observation. And the child is completely energized when you tell him that it is because of the molecules inside staying close together and moving slower in the cold and so the balloon deflates, or gets smaller. And then he wants to know what the molecules do when they get warm and so you tell him that the molecules move faster and spread out and they fill up the balloon again. By this time he is so totally taken in by the thought of MOLECULES that he is almost beside himself with curiosity and excitement. And from there, the sky is the limit!
Five year olds have a great perspective on fairness and equality. When you are five, everyone else who is five is just the same as you. You are five, I am five, we are the same. They do not exclude one another based on skin colour or appearance. They do not discriminate based on religion or how much money your mommy and daddy make. If you have a new toy that they do not have, they are happy for you and tell you so. They are more honest and just in their exclusion of a peer. If you take my toy, I will take it back and I will not play with you. If you hurt me, I may hurt you back, but I will definitely not play with you. If you are not willing to share or play by the rules, you cannot play with me. If you tell me you are sorry, I will forgive you and we will be friends again. We encourage children to "play nice" and "be fair", but they already know how to do that. Just watch five year olds interact with one another; they do not need an adult to tell them what is fair or right. They know. And they will advocate for themselves and their friends very effectively. It's the adults in the room that could learn from the children and their intrinsic knowledge of what is fair and just.
Being in the company of five year olds is best when you allow your self to become five again. See the world through their eyes, ask the "silly" questions, colour outside the lines, draw an imaginary creature from the planet Kookoohead. Make paper airplanes and fly them. Build towers with blocks and then knock them down. Eat chocolate pudding with your fingers. When your friend tells a knock knock joke with no punch line, laugh. Laugh from your belly, laugh from your toes because burps and farts are HILARIOUS! And boogers are gross, but can be tasty (I don't eat mine, but I know they should be named a food group for some kids).
For me, spending time with five year olds is a guarantee that I will experience joy and wonderment again. The world will become a magical place, even if just for awhile. I will feel hopeful for the future. Everything seems brighter, lighter and shinier after I have been in the company of a five year old. They are truly a gift and ,I myself, am grateful for them.
Better Than Carrots or Sticks
Restorative Practices for Positive Classroom Management
By Dominique Smith, Douglas B FIsher and Nancy E Frey
Restoring Safe School Communities
A whole School Response to Bullying, Violence and Alienation
By Brenda Morrison
The Restorative Practices Handbook
For Teachers , Disciplinarians and Administrators
By Bob Costello and Joshua Watchel and Ted Watchel
Implementing Restorative Practices in Schools
A Practical Guide to Transforming School Communities
By Margaret Thorsborne and Peta Blood
A Practical Introduction to Restorative Practices in Schools
Theory Skills and Guidance
By Bill Hansberry
The Little Book of Restorative Justice in Education
Fostering Responsibility, Healing and Hope in Schools
By Katherine Evans and Dorthy Vaanderbring
**Little gem of a book
Empowering Voices for Student Success
Embedding Restorative Practices and Circle Process in School Culture
By Catherine Wills and Lorayne Bradshaw
*Local Book by Upper Canada District School Board
Available online in PDF
Please join us for our Annual General meeting on monday, September 10th, 2018. We will be hosting it this year at the North Lanark Community Health Centre from 6:30-8:30pm.
Please RSVP to firstname.lastname@example.org if you can attend, we'd love to see you there.
Fungi, mycelium, the diversity of the plant world, observing and reading the soil while intuitively connecting to one's garden, farming, feeding the soil, feeding the community and how the fertile soil is considered to be a non-renewable resource were all topics of interest in the circle.
I walked away from this knowledge sharing circle experience feeling restored and revitalized in knowing that connection is not becoming obsolete and there are ways of practicing reconciliation and restorative communication through connecting with others while being out in nature sharing the land. I personally thrive on connection and have experienced profound growth in myself and others when we allow time to seek the silence in nature and then share our nature-connection experiences with others. This experience opens the door of opportunity to restoratively connect in a multifaceted way which includes growth in our inner emotional balance, our physical health, our mental confidence as well as growth in our spiritual and cultural relationship with our planet and with our community.
Whether getting your information from the news, social media, or word of mouth, we’re constantly having opinions, trauma and downright negative vibes shoved down your throat. We are continually confronted by mass emotions from mass events, with nowhere to put them.
We stuff it down, or we join the defence. There is no space anymore to express our feelings without being attacked. There’s a sense of disconnect from others and the world around us.We feel the need to pick a side and fight for it. We are desperate for connection, yet persist in fixating on our differences. The Dalai Lama observed, The Planet does not need more successful people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, more healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds"
The planet does not need more successful people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, more healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds”- The Dalai Lama
I think many of us can agree that while Donald Trump may be successful, we could certainly use a lot less of him.
I choose restorers.
I choose to rebuild broken ties.
I choose re-establishing a positive dialogue.
Re-building self-confidence. Identifying individual needs and addressing them. Lets talk about how difficult things are at home. Lets talk about how messed up the world is and how that makes us feel. Lets talk about racism and feminism and sexual fluidity to understand each other. Lets talk openly and connect, rather then picking sides of defence or offence.
it.) whenever conversations get heated. Not only can we hear each other (loud and clear) now, but we can also focus on understanding each other, instead of preparing our retortbecause we fear never get a chance have our say.
I challenge you to [start within your safest, most comfortable, relationships] have those difficult conversations and express how you are feeling AND allow the other participant to do the same.
When your mother, brother, grandparent, best friend, teacher, student, stranger becomes angry or unsettled or impolite.
Sit back and take a moment and think hmmm this individual is acting out, I wonder why?
Take it a step further and ask what do they need?How can you help?
Rather then sitting and judging and making assumptions that this person is an idiot, let empathy be your driving force.
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Imagine if your family regularly expressed their feelings to one another in a healthy, effective way.
Imagine if your boss stated expectations with a clear, respectful, safe approach allowing for open communication.
Imagine if your teacher took a moment to question why you were acting out. If your friends asked you What Happened, instead of What’s wrong with you?
Easier said then done.
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