​Better Than Carrots or Sticks 
​Restorative Practices for Positive Classroom Management 
By Dominique Smith, Douglas B FIsher and Nancy E Frey

​Restoring Safe School Communities 
A whole School Response to Bullying, Violence and Alienation
​By Brenda Morrison

​The Restorative Practices Handbook 
​For Teachers , Disciplinarians and Administrators 
​By Bob Costello and Joshua Watchel and Ted Watchel

​Implementing Restorative Practices in Schools 
A Practical Guide to Transforming School Communities
By Margaret Thorsborne and Peta Blood 

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​A Practical Introduction to Restorative Practices in Schools 
Theory Skills and Guidance 
By Bill Hansberry

​The Little Book of Restorative Justice in Education 
Fostering Responsibility, Healing and Hope in Schools 
By Katherine Evans and Dorthy Vaanderbring

**Little gem of a book

​Empowering Voices for Student Success 
Embedding Restorative Practices and Circle Process in School Culture 
By Catherine Wills and Lorayne Bradshaw 


*Local Book by Upper Canada District School Board 
​Available online in PDF

Please join us for our Annual General meeting on monday, September 10th, 2018. We will be hosting it this year at the North Lanark Community Health Centre from 6:30-8:30pm.
​Please RSVP to admin@commjustice.org if you can attend, we'd love to see you there.

Whether getting your information from the news, social media, or word of mouth, we’re constantly having opinions, trauma and downright negative vibes shoved down your throat. We are continually confronted by mass emotions from mass events, with nowhere to put them. 

We stuff it down, or we join the defence. There is no space anymore to express our feelings without being attacked. There’s a sense of disconnect from others and the world around us.We feel the need to pick a side and fight for it. We are desperate for connection, yet  persist in fixating on our differences. The Dalai Lama observed, The Planet does not need more successful people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, more healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds"

I think  many of us can agree that while Donald Trump may be successful, we could certainly use a lot less of him. 

I choose restorers.

I choose to rebuild broken ties.

I choose re-establishing a positive dialogue.

Re-building self-confidence. Identifying individual needs and addressing them. Lets talk about how difficult things are at home. Lets talk about how messed up the world is and how that makes us feel. Lets talk about racism and feminism and sexual fluidity to understand each other. Lets talk openly and connect, rather then picking sides of defence or offence. 

it.) whenever conversations get heated. Not only can we hear each other (loud and clear) now, but we can also focus on understanding each other, instead of preparing our retortbecause we fear never get a chance have our say. ​

I challenge you to [start within your safest, most comfortable, relationships] have those difficult conversations and express how you are feeling AND allow the other participant to do the same. 
When your mother, brother, grandparent, best friend, teacher, student, stranger becomes angry or unsettled or impolite.

Sit back and take a moment and think hmmm this individual is acting out, I wonder why?
Take it a step further and ask what do they need?How can you help?
Rather then sitting and judging and making assumptions that this person is an idiot, let empathy be your driving force. ​ 

We love to hear from you, so don't forget to comment below, message us on Facebook or tweet at us how it went! @lccommjustice #restorativelanarkcounty 

Imagine if your family regularly expressed their feelings to one another in a healthy, effective way.

Imagine if your boss stated expectations with a clear, respectful, safe approach allowing for open communication.

Imagine if your teacher took a moment to question why you were acting out. If your friends asked you What Happened, instead of What’s wrong with you?

Easier said then done.
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Restorative Practices have the power to create connection, strengthen relationships, and repair harm. Join us for a free skill building workshop to engage in the growing conversation around how to help those around us through positive social responses and restorative practices. Explore the impacts of trauma, strategies to create safe places and how to support anyone in your life who is struggling or experiencing some form of trauma or difficulty. The workshops are open to anyone and everyone and suitable for community members, parents, coaches, book clubs, faith groups, mom groups, service providers.

I have written about how the guidelines of the circle are a set of expectations to follow in order for a positive peaceful resolution to occur. But (the big BUT), what if people ignore the guidelines, whether it be due to emotional trauma, confusion or anger? What if conflict causes one to speak out of turn, disagree, disrupt the guidelines or overstep boundaries and thus treat others in the circle negatively and at the same time lose his or her own integrity? Losing one's integrity is the price one pays when disrespecting the circle guidelines and one must answer to his/her own woes while looking in the mirror. There is no excuse for disrespectful behaviour in the circle and under these circumstances peaceful communication is, beyond a doubt, hard work for all involved.
 
Whether i be a circle facilitator or a participant, it is my intention to take full responsibility to acknowledge an error of disrespectful behaviour and/or misdirected judgement. Through acknowledgement, one becomes vulnerable and when one is courageous enough to reveal their vulnerabilities by admitting their wrongs in (and out of) the circle, then opportunity rises for healing to begin. When one acknowledges their disrespect to others in the circle, then the act of disrespect becomes a good teacher for all involved and integrity is offered space to save face.
Circle Sharing is a complex process. Among each of its' members, there is a diversity of life experiences attached, cultural differences and/or cell memory from lifetimes past to mitigate.
The Circle Resolution process, is just that- a process. One must remember that there are no two circles alike. There are times when the circles do not work for everyone and one needs to accept and walk away until all feel safe to return- if they return at all. It is a difficult part of the process to accept that there will be no resolution. Accepting that there will not be reconciliation is a process of its own. Time heals but at the same time, there is no specific time-line for the healing process to occur. One needs to sit and reflect in patience until the healing process comes around full circle in every sense of the word- and it may take generations before reconciliation to occur, or resolution may happen in a 20 minute circle sharing experience. To each his/her own healing process.
If it is not the right time for people to come to terms together, then it's time for all parties to leave the circle, go back to their corners to reflect on their own responsibilities for wrong doings and/or right doings. When people are able to speak from the heart, listen from the heart and represent themselves without placing blame and shame onto others, then a resolution may be the result.
Communication can be very complex. I have my circle work cut out for me, answer to my faults, integrity and dignity to uphold.
It is never too late to call a circle.