Better Than Carrots or Sticks
Restorative Practices for Positive Classroom Management
By Dominique Smith, Douglas B FIsher and Nancy E Frey
Restoring Safe School Communities
A whole School Response to Bullying, Violence and Alienation
By Brenda Morrison
The Restorative Practices Handbook
For Teachers , Disciplinarians and Administrators
By Bob Costello and Joshua Watchel and Ted Watchel
Implementing Restorative Practices in Schools
A Practical Guide to Transforming School Communities
By Margaret Thorsborne and Peta Blood
A Practical Introduction to Restorative Practices in Schools
Theory Skills and Guidance
By Bill Hansberry
The Little Book of Restorative Justice in Education
Fostering Responsibility, Healing and Hope in Schools
By Katherine Evans and Dorthy Vaanderbring
**Little gem of a book
Empowering Voices for Student Success
Embedding Restorative Practices and Circle Process in School Culture
By Catherine Wills and Lorayne Bradshaw
*Local Book by Upper Canada District School Board
Available online in PDF
Please join us for our Annual General meeting on monday, September 10th, 2018. We will be hosting it this year at the North Lanark Community Health Centre from 6:30-8:30pm.
Please RSVP to email@example.com if you can attend, we'd love to see you there.
Fungi, mycelium, the diversity of the plant world, observing and reading the soil while intuitively connecting to one's garden, farming, feeding the soil, feeding the community and how the fertile soil is considered to be a non-renewable resource were all topics of interest in the circle.
I walked away from this knowledge sharing circle experience feeling restored and revitalized in knowing that connection is not becoming obsolete and there are ways of practicing reconciliation and restorative communication through connecting with others while being out in nature sharing the land. I personally thrive on connection and have experienced profound growth in myself and others when we allow time to seek the silence in nature and then share our nature-connection experiences with others. This experience opens the door of opportunity to restoratively connect in a multifaceted way which includes growth in our inner emotional balance, our physical health, our mental confidence as well as growth in our spiritual and cultural relationship with our planet and with our community.
Whether getting your information from the news, social media, or word of mouth, we’re constantly having opinions, trauma and downright negative vibes shoved down your throat. We are continually confronted by mass emotions from mass events, with nowhere to put them.
We stuff it down, or we join the defence. There is no space anymore to express our feelings without being attacked. There’s a sense of disconnect from others and the world around us.We feel the need to pick a side and fight for it. We are desperate for connection, yet persist in fixating on our differences. The Dalai Lama observed, The Planet does not need more successful people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, more healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds"
The planet does not need more successful people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, more healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds”- The Dalai Lama
I think many of us can agree that while Donald Trump may be successful, we could certainly use a lot less of him.
I choose restorers.
I choose to rebuild broken ties.
I choose re-establishing a positive dialogue.
Re-building self-confidence. Identifying individual needs and addressing them. Lets talk about how difficult things are at home. Lets talk about how messed up the world is and how that makes us feel. Lets talk about racism and feminism and sexual fluidity to understand each other. Lets talk openly and connect, rather then picking sides of defence or offence.
it.) whenever conversations get heated. Not only can we hear each other (loud and clear) now, but we can also focus on understanding each other, instead of preparing our retortbecause we fear never get a chance have our say.
I challenge you to [start within your safest, most comfortable, relationships] have those difficult conversations and express how you are feeling AND allow the other participant to do the same.
When your mother, brother, grandparent, best friend, teacher, student, stranger becomes angry or unsettled or impolite.
Sit back and take a moment and think hmmm this individual is acting out, I wonder why?
Take it a step further and ask what do they need?How can you help?
Rather then sitting and judging and making assumptions that this person is an idiot, let empathy be your driving force.
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Imagine if your family regularly expressed their feelings to one another in a healthy, effective way.
Imagine if your boss stated expectations with a clear, respectful, safe approach allowing for open communication.
Imagine if your teacher took a moment to question why you were acting out. If your friends asked you What Happened, instead of What’s wrong with you?
Easier said then done.
Restorative Practices have the power to create connection, strengthen relationships, and repair harm. Join us for a free skill building workshop to engage in the growing conversation around how to help those around us through positive social responses and restorative practices. Explore the impacts of trauma, strategies to create safe places and how to support anyone in your life who is struggling or experiencing some form of trauma or difficulty. The workshops are open to anyone and everyone and suitable for community members, parents, coaches, book clubs, faith groups, mom groups, service providers.
Restorative Practices, Restorative Schools, ACES, Toxic Stress, Community Development, Relationships, Children, Parents, Coaches, Service Providers,
I have written about how the guidelines of the circle are a set of expectations to follow in order for a positive peaceful resolution to occur. But (the big BUT), what if people ignore the guidelines, whether it be due to emotional trauma, confusion or anger? What if conflict causes one to speak out of turn, disagree, disrupt the guidelines or overstep boundaries and thus treat others in the circle negatively and at the same time lose his or her own integrity? Losing one's integrity is the price one pays when disrespecting the circle guidelines and one must answer to his/her own woes while looking in the mirror. There is no excuse for disrespectful behaviour in the circle and under these circumstances peaceful communication is, beyond a doubt, hard work for all involved.
Whether i be a circle facilitator or a participant, it is my intention to take full responsibility to acknowledge an error of disrespectful behaviour and/or misdirected judgement. Through acknowledgement, one becomes vulnerable and when one is courageous enough to reveal their vulnerabilities by admitting their wrongs in (and out of) the circle, then opportunity rises for healing to begin. When one acknowledges their disrespect to others in the circle, then the act of disrespect becomes a good teacher for all involved and integrity is offered space to save face.
Circle Sharing is a complex process. Among each of its' members, there is a diversity of life experiences attached, cultural differences and/or cell memory from lifetimes past to mitigate.
The Circle Resolution process, is just that- a process. One must remember that there are no two circles alike. There are times when the circles do not work for everyone and one needs to accept and walk away until all feel safe to return- if they return at all. It is a difficult part of the process to accept that there will be no resolution. Accepting that there will not be reconciliation is a process of its own. Time heals but at the same time, there is no specific time-line for the healing process to occur. One needs to sit and reflect in patience until the healing process comes around full circle in every sense of the word- and it may take generations before reconciliation to occur, or resolution may happen in a 20 minute circle sharing experience. To each his/her own healing process.
If it is not the right time for people to come to terms together, then it's time for all parties to leave the circle, go back to their corners to reflect on their own responsibilities for wrong doings and/or right doings. When people are able to speak from the heart, listen from the heart and represent themselves without placing blame and shame onto others, then a resolution may be the result.
Communication can be very complex. I have my circle work cut out for me, answer to my faults, integrity and dignity to uphold.
It is never too late to call a circle.
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